I saw this last night and had to share it. This is such an empowering way to look at the trails and pain that we go through. Having this train of thought allows us to tap into one of the most powerful sources of strength that we have access to…HOPE. Hope in my opinion is one of the most important tools that we have to turn our dreams and aspirations into reality. Our dreams are the seed and hope is the water. I know what hope has allowed me to accomplish to this point, and I plan on fueling my tank with it’s bottomless reservoir till the end. So next time you feel the weight of your struggles pulling at you, stay hopeful that it will soon release you and send you flying towards greatness.
This definitely doesn’t mean ACT without regard to possible dangers and repercussions. I believe it’s telling us to ACT in such a way that we are not looking for something in return or expecting a predetermined result from our actions. We set ourselves up for disappointment if we do otherwise.
Take our relationships and interactions with people for example. In some instances if you really examine where some of our problems start we’ll see that it starts with us and our unspoken EXPECTATIONS. For instance, let’s say you do something for someone, whatever it may be, and they don’t react or reciprocate in the way you expected, you now feel hurt, disappointed, shorted or angry. This is all happening while the recipient has no idea of your preconceived EXPECTATIONS that you had pertaining to this event or for them.
However, if we choose to ACT WITHOUT EXPECTATION in respects to our kinds acts for one another and truly do it unselfishly, we will never be disappointed because we did it without expecting any certain result from it. Whatever happens, happens. I’m going to try to make a concerted effort live my life free from the bondage of expectations. Come what may, whether it be something or nothing. The definition of surprise just so happens to be a completely unexpected occurrence. I guess we’ll be living a life full of surprises then
My previous art oriented posts were mainly centered around artists and their ability to make their art look realistic, also known as photo-realism. Alexa Meade, however does the contrary. She seeks to make three-dimensional subjects look like two-dimensional oil paintings when viewed in a photograph.
In August 2008, the artist began to apply acrylic paint to the surfaces of people, objects, and walls in a broad brushstroke that mimics the appearance of brushwork in a painting. After 9 months of practice, she was able to unveil her “Reverse Trompe L’Oeil” collection in October, 2009. Her aim is to make her living models into flat pictures. The result is walking, talking optical illusions that confuse how the eye processes these objects in space.
The artist never attended art school nor has she ever taken advanced painting courses.
Alexa Meade art
Yup, I’m I’m sharing a food post with you. These grilled cheese rolls were too tasty and too easy to make not to share, and made in 4 simple steps. We also made our own tomato soup to go along with, but today I’m just going to share with you how to make these dipping friendly cheese delights.
How to make the grilled cheese rolls:
- Flatten white bread or bread of choice (crust optional)
- Put cheese of your choice on top and then roll the bread
- Heat some butter on medium heat in skillet
- Place roll seem side down and cook to your liking
Done! Then it’s just cheesy bliss from here.
Finally after years of unappreciative takers I have found someone that epitomizes this quote. For a time there I thought my expectations were too high or unattainable because I always felt short ended. I was merely searching for someone who would reciprocate what I was dishing out. That’s not too much to ask right?? Like the whole golden rule deal, treat others as you would like to be treated. As I trudged my way through relationships full of compromise, arguments and tension I thought to myself this can’t be the way it has to be. Then I would would try to rationalize these sorry excuses for relationships to myself by saying, “no one is perfect, these sorts of things come with relationships”. This is not true people! There are over 7 billion humans on this planet, there must be at least one out there that you can seamlessly interact and communicate with all while respecting and appreciating each other in the utmost.
So don’t sell yourself short. Don’t enter a relationship where you have lowered your own bar of expectations. Don’t settle for less than what you deserve.
Ok, this Little Boy and His French Bulldog was just do dang adorable not to share. Tokyo, Japan-based mother Aya Sakai has been photographically chronicling the adventures of her young son, Little Tasuku and his best friend Muu, a French Bulldog using Instagram. The boys’ mother, can’t seem to get enough of photographing the dynamic duo in their daily misadventures, and it seems their 290,000+ Instagram followers can’t seem to get enough of them either.Whether they’re cuddling on the couch, playing or watching tv, the two just can’t seem to get enough of each other.
Like most of us did when we were bored in class, Jody Steel chose to doodle. However, instead of using her notebook she decided to use her leg as the canvas and create some mouth dropping leg art.
Despite having no kind of formal training as an illustrator, Jodi’s dermal masterpieces look like the work of a seasoned artist and are sometimes mistaken as tattoos. And where you and I may have gotten scolded or punished for doodling in class, Jody was actually offered a job when one of the professors caught a glimpse of her leg art. A professor at Emerson College, in Boston, asked her to draw the illustrations for a ‘steam punk’ book called Steaming into a Victorian Future: A Steampunk Anthology.
Her pieces mainly utilize pens and black ink. Steel says she didn’t expect the fame she’s starting to receive on the Internet, ”I really started because honestly, I didn’t have any paper around,” she told HuffPost Weird News. “I was drawing a lot in class, and people began to notice … I’m just really pale and my skin is most equivalent to paper.”
I try to step back and remember the days when our communication was predominantly done by phone (talking) or face to face. Compared to texting, liking, tweeting and browsing. But I haven’t quite determined if how we communicate today is all that bad. Because of these mediums I have come to chat and know a number of you, and without the internet it would not be possible. I’m thinking that it’s all about balance. Although, I do believe it would be healthier if your face to face communication outweighed your internet communication.
There is almost no other way I could get updates on dozens of my friends in a matter of minutes like I can on Facebook. It’s like a daily newspaper that includes stories, obituaries, photos, events and comics all created by my friends and family. Or take the blog feed here where I get to be a part of each one of your shares.
Since, my injury and having my driving privileges taken away I have had to lean on the internet to feed my desire of communication more times than not. I know it’s not the best thing, but sometimes it’s the only thing.
So, yes I’m Guilty of clicking, liking, and internet relationships, but is it really all that bad? Are we creating a touch-less emotionally sparse means of communication? Or are we reaching people and their minds and hearts that otherwise would not be possible? I know I’m enriched by a lot of what you all post, share and write.
What is The Super Supercapacitor?
The Super Supercapacitor was one of 20 finalists in GE’s Focus Forward Films, a project that profiled 30 innovative ideas and the people behind them in three-minute films.
This short film looks at technology that could also us to charge our phone, tablet, or laptop in 30 seconds and have it work all day long. Ric Kaner and his team accidentally made this discovery while working on a new way to generate graphene, a material used in carbon nanotubes. This stumbled upon breakthrough in power storage holds the promise to change the world.
We ideally would like our rechargeable electronic devices to be capable of high energy storage and fast charging, the best of both worlds. That is what the super supercapacitor can deliver. Additionally, it is made with Graphene, a carbon polymer that does not contain toxic metals like batteries we use today. They are environment friendly and are not only biodegradable, but also compostable.
You can watch the film to hear Kaner explain how the super supercapacitor could change the world:
This work is most certainly in the research phase, with many groups chasing the almost unlimited power that the super supercapacitors has the ability to offer. Whomever solves this problem will have the entire world as its customers due to its real world application.
Technology like this would allow electronic devices like cell phones and tablet computers to be charged in seconds and hold a charge longer than standard batteries.
Eventually the technology can be scaled up and directly effect electric cars or storage devices for wind turbines and solar collectors. It currently takes hours to charge an electric car. The super supercapacitor would allow its users to “refuel” them as quickly as one can a gasoline powered car.
The following images were created by Nacho Diaz. I thought they were quite clever with little hidden interpretive messages within them.
This past Saturday me and my dad went to the Oceanside Pier in California to eat at a restaurant called Ruby’s that sits at the end of the pier. Upon arriving we found it extra difficult to find a parking spot and had no idea why. Once we found a spot and reached the pier I learned that it the Ford Supergirl Pro surf contest was going on and that was the reason for the increase of people. So we watched a little of the contest and then proceeded to the end of the pier to have a late lunch at Ruby’s, which was delicious.
As we made our way back up the pier I noticed it was a bit more crowded and figured it was because it was just later in the day. I managed to find an open spot to look out and watch the surfing. While watching I noticed one of the surfers didn’t have an arm, and then it clicked who I was getting to watch. It was Bethany Hamilton from the movie Soul Surfer. It was amazing to say the least to watch her. I used to to surf before my injury and let me tell you, it’s no easy task paddling out and this girl is doing it with one arm. She not only was able to surf, but she was awesome and powerful once she was up. I couldn’t help but get choked up knowing what she has fought through to be doing what she was doing.
Here are some pictures I got of her in the process of standing and paddling out:
Here’s my 2nd installment of amazing hand drawn pieces of art that could easily pass as photographs. At first sight they may look like some pretty sharp blue photographs, however all those pictures are actually hand drawn with a simple Bic ballpoint pen! Spanish artist Juan Francisco Casas uses up to four 14p ballpoint pens to create some incredible photorealistic drawings. His source of inspiration comes from his own photographs of nights out with his friends, and after viewing a number of his drawings you can only imagine how wild his parties are. I’m only posting his PG-13 rated images here, but let’s just say his female friends aren’t scared to bare all. Juan is considered one of the more influential young painters in Spain.
Here’s my other photorealistic post: NOT A Photo, This Was Created With A Pencil
The other day I was thinking to myself I wonder if some of these celebrities that many of us assume are so happy and have so much are truly fulfilled. Plus many of them weren’t born into wealth or fame, so this gives them a priceless perception concerning the subject. Then a few days later I just so happened to stumble upon this quote by total coincidence. Upon reading it my mind instantly began processing the possible beautiful and conflicting truth in it. He adds so much credibility to it because I had read where Jim Carrey was struggling or breaking even like many of us are, earlier in his own life. So this bit of information gave his quote even more legitimacy in my opinion.
I later came across numerous comments discussing these quoted words that examined from many points of view. Here are some of the ones I found most interesting:
- Jim Carrey grew up dirt poor. he lived in a van with his family. i think he would know if having money really is the answer
- Honestly, I’d rather have money and not knowing the answer than being broke and not knowing the answer.
- Sorry, but I’m struggling to get myself fed every day, so don’t mind me, I’m just going to stand in the corner and envy you, Jim.
- They say that money cannot buy one happiness, but nothing can cause depression and suicide like poverty.
- Cool. But money could buy me endless travel, which I believe would be more fulfilling than endless desk time.
- Still would rather have the problems that come with having money than the problems that come with not having money.
- True happiness does come from within. *nod*
- It’s funny how Jim Carrey only mentioned having an excess of what is needed to live yet everyone gets all anal pained over how poverty is hell. The quote doesn’t even say that money doesn’t buy happiness, it specifically mentions only being rich and famous.
Finally after dealing with clunky, itchy and smelly casts for years there is finally another option on the medical horizon. The 3D printed cast provides a very precise and equally beneficial support system that is fully ventilated, super light, shower friendly, hygienic, recyclable and stylish.
The 3D printed cast is created after the patient’s bones have been x-rayed and the outside of the limb has been 3D scanned. Once this has been completed computer software would then determine the optimum shape for stabilizing the injury with denser support focused around the fracture itself and generate a 3D model of the exoskeletal cast before it is created.
The pieces would be printed on-site and clip into place with fastenings that can’t be undone until the healing process is complete, when they would be taken off with tools at the hospital as normal. Unlike current casts, the materials could then be recycled.
Currently, the 3D printed cast cast takes around three hours to create. Today’s plaster casts only take three to nine minutes, but requires 24-72 hours to be fully set. However, with hopeful improvements concerning the 3D printed cast, there should be a big reduction in the time it’s production.
The project was done in collaboration with a University’s orthopedic department and looking for funding while it’s in the concept stage. You can check out the creator’s website, Jake Evill, HERE.
Now let me be the first to tell you that I am guilty of many of these things, so I am by no means tooting my horn here. This living average thing definitely hit close to home with me. There are many things that I keep telling myself will happen in my life or future, but guess what…our future is created in the present. With that said, I am actively fighting the “average” scenario depicted in this picture and not allowing my dreams to remain dreams. This image can also be tied into my last post about “What Is Normal?”. I mean a lot this image fits right into what we see in movies, the media and how we’ve been brought up to expect life to be. And I’m not saying the so called “average” life that this cartoon depicts is a bad thing either. A lot of people have followed this very timeline and are great people and were more than happy doing it. The world needs dedicated hard workers in all social classes. However, I do think this illustration should cause us to step back and examine the path we are on and ask ourselves are we living life we want to be.
The other day I started thinking about What Is Normal? Yeah, I know I’ve been on this earth long enough that I should have already thought about this, ha. I mainly thought of this because I tend to put a lot of pressure and stress on myself in thinking I should be doing this or that by this point in my life. But why do we do that? Why do we think we should fit a certain mold or follow a certain track? In my opinion it’s society and/or what we see in the media. I don’t know of any book or absolute rule in existence that tells us what weight we should be, who we should love, when we should marry, how much money we should make, when to have children…This list could go on and I’m sure you could think of some yourself.
Like the image above says, normal is purely subjective. I had a thought the other day that looked further into this concept:
Alright I created a video to accompany this post and in spite of my fear of making and posting it, here it is:
This video not only because not only is it super funny, but it also very true…at least for me it is. This fantastically funny video What kind of Asian are you? looks at the ignorance of assuming someone is foreign based on appearance. I never know the politically correct term when asking someone where they are from from??…Like do you say what’s your heritage? Where are your parents from? What’s your ethnicity?
And I completely love her reaction to the white American guy’s question by asking him where he was from from. Of course he goes straight to saying he’s from America, and she responds with oh so you are Native American? Think about that for a second we are Americans are also foreigners unless we are the truly Native American.
I have seen this video everywhere the past few days and I refrained from clicking on it the first 5 times I saw it posted somewhere. Well I guess 6 sightings is my breaking point because here it is, ha. This video was posted less than a week ago on May 30, 2013 and has close to 2 million views at the moment. I’m sure it will get millions more and you’ll see it shared in other places too. But I’m placing it here so maybe you’ll fall victim to it like I did
When I came across these 18 tearjerking photos the other day my eyes leaked and I was moved beyond words, so I felt compelled to share them here with you also. I hope they impact you in some memorable way also.
Navy chaplain Luis Padillo gives last rites to a soldier wounded by sniper fire during a revolt in Venezuela.
A North Korean man waves his hand as a South Korean relative weeps, following a luncheon meeting during inter-Korean temporary family reunions at Mount Kumgang resort October 31, 2010. Four hundred and thirty-six South Koreans were allowed to spend three days in North Korea to meet their 97 North Korean relatives, whom they had been separated from since the 1950-53 war.
A Romanian child hands a heart-shaped balloon to riot police during protests against austerity measures in Bucharest.
Australian Scott Jones kisses his Canadian girlfriend Alex Thomas after she was knocked to the ground by a police officer’s riot shield in Vancouver, British Columbia. Canadians rioted after the Vancouver Canucks lost the Stanley Cup to the Boston Bruins.
Retired Philadelphia Police Captain Ray Lewis is arrested for participating in the Occupy Wall Street protests in 2011.
A monk prays for an elderly man who had died suddenly while waiting for a train in Shanxi Taiyuan, China.
John F. Kennedy Jr. salutes his father’s coffin along with the honor guard.
Christians protect Muslims during prayer in the midst of the uprisings in Cairo, Egypt, in 2011.
A girl in isolation for radiation screening looks at her dog through a window in Nihonmatsu, Japan on March 14.
Journalists Euna Lee and Laura Ling, who had been arrested in North Korea and sentenced to 12 years hard labor, are reunited with their families in California after a successful diplomatic intervention by the U.S.
The iconic photo of Tank Man, the unknown rebel who stood in front of a column of Chinese tanks in an act of defiance following the Tiananmen Square protests of 1989.
A Sudan People’s Liberation Army soldier stands at attention on the eve of South Sudan’s independence from Sudan.
Eight-year-old Christian Golczynski accepts the flag for his father, Marine Staff Sgt. Marc Golczynski, during a memorial service. Marc Golczynski was shot on patrol during his second tour in Iraq (which he had volunteered for) just a few weeks before he was due to return home.
“La Jeune Fille a la Fleur,” a photograph by Marc Riboud, shows the young pacifist Jane Rose Kasmir planting a flower on the bayonets of guards at the Pentagon during a protest against the Vietnam War on October 21, 1967. The photograph would eventually become the symbol of the flower power movement.
Terri Gurrola is reunited with her daughter after serving in Iraq for 7 months.
Helen Fisher kisses the hearse carrying the body of her 20-year-old cousin, Private Douglas Halliday, as he and six other fallen soldiers are brought through the town of Wootton Bassett in England.
During a 5 month stint on the International Space Station a Canadian astronaut named Chris Hadfield documented his time by posting Twitter photographs and YouTube videos (Both of these grew immensely following his posts from space). And to celebrate his last day aboard the craft he released a rendition of David Bowie’s “Space Oddity.” Once the video was uploaded to YouTube it was viewed more than a million times in the 18 hours.
The “Space Oddity” cover was something Hadfield had wanted to do and had began planning for before he left earth on December 19. Due to a healthy dose of international copyright issues, he needed to work with Bowie himself and his team, NASA and the Canadian Space Agency before his launch in December.
Some may ask why he would do this. Chris Hadfield hinted at some possible reasoning in a different farewell-to-space video: “Who’d have thought that five months away from the planet would make you feel closer to people?” he asked. “Not closer because I miss them — just closer because seeing this [experience] this way and being able to share it through all the media that we’ve used has allowed me to get a direct reflection back immediately from so many people. … It makes me feel like I’m actually with people more, that we’re having a conversation. That this experience is not individual, but it’s shared and it’s worldwide.”
I believe this also was an amazing way to put the space program back on the map. Especially, with the recent closing of the Space Shuttle Program.
I think we underestimate the power and need for us to be comfortable with ourselves. It not only benefits us, but it will also help us be better for those around us. This quote above explains it superbly.
I don’t know how many times I have found myself trying to concoct a relationship purely on the basis of loneliness and searching for happiness in someone else. I never realized that I was actually trying to make them an escape from myself. The less selfish and more solid foundation for a relationship would be one built on us already loving and being comfortable with ourselves first. This would allow us to give and not just take. I have always heard we must give in order to receive.
Now don’t get me wrong, this isn’t taking away the job that we all have in being a support system to those we care for or that need us. What I’m saying here and/or warning against is the act of us basing our happiness in others. Because a good portion of the time we will be left disappointed by the unmet expectations that we have put in those around us. Being dependent on others for happiness makes us much more vulnerable and likely to be hurt.
Instead, let’s all try to be healthy and strong first that way we can give love first and receive it back as by product of what we gave.
The world’s first braille smartphone for the visually impaired is here. Soon, they will be able to read SMSes and emails on a phone that will convert all text into Braille patterns.
Sumit Dagar, the products innovator proclaims “We have created the world’s first Braille smartphone”. This product will provide an innovative ‘touch screen’ which will translate incoming messages by elevating and depressing the contents into ‘touchable’ patterns.
Dagar came up with the idea for the phone three years ago. Right now he is working with IIT Delhi on the prototype. The hopeful release date will be by the end of 2013, for about $185.
How the World’s First Braille Smartphone Works
A) The smartphone uses Shape Memory Alloy technology, based on the idea that metals remember their original shapes and can morph between the desired textures.
B) The phone’s ‘screen’ has a grid of pins, which move up and down to represent a character or letter.
C) This screen will be able to form patterns in Braille.
D) All other elements will not not be comparable to any other smartphone.
You can watch Sumit Dagar’s TED Talk about the world’s first braille smartphone below:
I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve questioned this very thing. I don’t know about you, but I’m frequently baffled by why bad things happen to good or innocent people and/or why good things seem to come to the corrupt and unkind…it’s NOT FAIR. I think it’s above our pay level or comprehension to understand such things.
Here’s a little perspective though for the next time we may think our circumstances aren’t fair. There may be times when we think we have it bad, but to an outside observer who has it worse than you at that very moment may think your bad is a blessing. In other words what is fair? It seems to quite subjective and based of what we think we should receive at any given moment and sometimes in comparison to others.
With more than 100 million views in six days, Kony 2012, a 30-minute documentary about Ugandan rebel leader Joseph Kony, became not only the Top Viral Video Of 2012, but also the most viral video in history according to statistics conducted by Visible Measures.
Kony 2012 was a short film created by an organization called Invisible Children, Inc. The film’s purpose was to promote the charity “Stop Kony”, while raising awareness concerning the International Criminal Court fugitive Joseph Kony to have him arrested by the end of 2012, when the campaign expired.
Between it’s release on March 5, 2012 and October 17, 2012, the film had over 94 million views on video-sharing website YouTube, and over 16.6 million views on Vimeo making it the top viral video of 2012 . The drastic amount of traffic actually caused the “Kony 2012″ website to crash for a short period. A poll went so far as claiming that more than half of young American adults heard about Kony 2012 in one way or another.
Despite the rapid rise of the video it brought a shower of criticism to the supporting organization, Invisible Children. Many naysayers targeted the practices of Invisible Children at the organizational level, versus the true focus of the video to expose whether or not Joseph Kony, the leader of the Lord’s Resistance Army, was a war criminal.
The Holstee manifesto has been an unexpected successful creation by the Brooklyn-based apparel company Holstee. The company was founded on selling sustainably sourced consumer goods, however the poster of the manifesto is now one of Holstee’s best-selling items. At one point, they sold out of it with a four-week back-order. The manifesto has been translated into 12 languages, and has been viewed an approximate 50 plus million times.
Of course my hopeless romantic self gravitated towards the line: If you are looking for the love of your life, STOP; They will be waiting for you when you start doing the things you love.
I never thought about that before. I guess I always feel this external pressure to make it happen and actively search versus doing what I love and letting it surprisingly bump into or find me.
The backbone of the video below is a Charlie Chaplin speech given in the movie “The Great Dictator“, shot in 1940. I had never heard this before and was so glad that I finally did yesterday. This video and it’s message is amazing. It’s one of those make your throat burn and eyes leak videos, at least for me it was. It reminds us to snap out of it and realize the beauty and kindness that’s out there, and to pursue it in spite of all the calamity and evil that’s also present. You can find renditions of this all over YouTube, but this was the best one in my opinion that I came across. Enjoy!
20 Great Bansky Street Art Photos
I first heard of and saw Bansky’s work when I watched a documentary a few years ago called, Exit Through the Gift Shop (2010). His street art to me is a fantastic combination of beauty and wit, all while addressing many social and political issues. His works can be found on streets, walls, and bridges of cities throughout the world.
Know What You Deserve…This can be true for so many different things. However, the first 2 areas that come to my mind at this moment is relationships and career. There are so many times where I have to remind myself not to settle on either just because it’s convenient or because I’m scared that what I want won’t come along. Fear can prevent us from acquiring greatness. Whether it be the fear of being alone or the fear of trying something new. So, I’m trying to prevent myself from making a decision out of fear in either one of these categories that I will regret later and feel as if I settled. There are too many people and opportunities out there for us to compromise our ultimate happiness.
I came across this yesterday and it gave me such an uplifting feeling, so I wanted to pay it forward by sharing it with you all. This is a picture of a free school for slum children under a metro bridge in New Delhi, India. Rajesh Kumar Sharma, uses black boards painted on a building wall to teach at least 30 children from nearby poor villages free of cost for the last three years.
Sharma dedicates 2 hours out of every week day for this cause. He was forced to drop out of college due to financial difficulties, so he decided to start the free school in hopes of sparing these children the same difficulties he faced. After convincing their parents to allow them a 2 hour break from their work, he manages to keep them ahead of the school curriculum.
Dang all of the sudden I’m getting love left and right. It’s truly an honor to receive the very inspiring blogger award because I believe you are all 100 times the blogger I am. Your words seem to come so easily and eloquently. Thank you for all the likes, comments and support.
For this award I will nominate some blogs and/or the people that the blogs belong to that have touched me or inspired me in some way. I know some of you have already been nominated for this award or your not even accepting awards, but you’re getting it anyways, ha. Thank you!
If you so choose to participate, here are the 5 rules to follow:
1) Link back to the person who nominated you.
Thank you for your continuous and dependable support Bonding Tool
2) Post the award image on your page.
3) Tell seven (7) random facts about yourself.
1. My drink of choice is water
2. I don’t want to lose my hair
3. I’ve never had a cavity
4. I think before I speak
5. I don’t think I have any enemies
6. One of the most difficult parts about being in a chair is when a child too young to understand wants me to get up and play or get on the ground with them.
7. I want to know where all the lost socks go.
4) Nominate fifteen (15) other blogs.
5) Place the nomination on their blog
Since finding this great avenue of connection that we have here on WordPress I have read some phenomenal pieces by you all. Some come here and share their most recent dating stories. Some come here to share their beautiful and powerful poetry. Some speak of painful memories that they’ve held on to for years. Some take me to other parts of the world by sharing their travels. Regardless of what is you all share it given me the desire to air a bit of my emotional laundry as well.
You bloggonians have shown me enough care and love that I feel like you are shoulders to cry on and/or hands to high five in my highs. With this said I feel like I can vent here and share with you all, and it’s a great feeling. I was quite apprehensive to write and share this because I feel like I’m whining or something. Plus, you are all such great writers here and your words seem to flow so effortlessly that I feel like a mere novice. But who knows, maybe some of you will be able to relate to this or use it as a heart break prevention tool in the future.
Alright let’s get into it…
In the past 6 months I have been a victim of the busy bee TWICE. When I say busy bee I mean a girl who says, “Sorry I’ve been busy” when you ask where they disappeared to. Let’s have a look at the evidence for both of these cases:
She was quite aggressive and actually asked me when I was going to ask her for her number. I was instantly attracted. It’s cute and aggressive. Once numbers were exchanged the communication pattern began. Multiple texts a day including good morning have a good day and good nights seasoned with sweet dreams. Then on to that first beautiful and exciting actual phone call. Now we are firing on all cylinders laughing, sharing and making plans.
Let’s now fast forward to the crime scene.
The texts become few and far between. There are no random phone calls and she always seems to be BUSY. So I push on despite my healthy dose of skepticism. I lean on my trust in her. Now it’s getting a bit ridiculous and I ask the what the problem is. She replies sorry I’ve just been BUSY with work, family and enlisting duties for the navy. What can I do, call her a liar and demand she still makes time for me? No way, then I become the problem. So once again I reach into my trust stash and believe her. Now weeks passes by and no word. I send a text that stirs a response and learn that too BUSY actually means seeing someone else.
I would share the confession text with you, but I deleted it.
She was great right off the bat. She made the first move and wrote me first. Once again I love the confidence and assertiveness. Our numbers get exchanged more quickly this time and I wait till Valentine’s day to deliver the first text. She is elated upon receiving it. We text back and forth regularly for weeks before we actually talk. The random hope your having a good day texts are running freely. The disclosing of our past, our hopes and our interests are a daily affair. We are getting closer and more comfortable with each other.
Normal communication begins to change.
The questions and interest begins to fade. The random texts are a thing of the past. The last text in our phone conversation shows me posing a question, but getting no reply. If I don’t try to call I don’t think we’d even talk. I ask her what’s up and she tell me she been busy with work, moving and buying a car. I tell myself surely it isn’t happening again. I mean I just told this girl about how this had just recently happened to me. No way somebody could repeat the same offense that you shared with them. Once again I reach into my trust bag and remember reassuring things she had told me. The trust begins to wear thin and today I asked her if I’m liking and thinking about someone who isn’t doing the same. And here’s the reply I got: Good morning babes! I do want to apologize for being a little distant recently. I have ALOT going on around here and in this damn brain of mine. I want to be honest with you because that's what you deserve. I met someone about a month ago through mutual friends and we have hung out a lot recently. Im not sure what is going to come out of this but I don't want to be dishonest with you because that's not who I am. I think about you a lot through out my day and I am a bit confused to be honest.
What I’ve learned from this is that if things seem like they don’t add up, they probably don’t. Trust your instincts. In both instances I chose to believe what I wanted to be true versus what actually was. Like the quote says above no one is really too BUSY. There are 24 hours in a day. We can spare seconds or minutes to let the people we care about know that we still care. So the moral of the story boys and girls is Beware of Busy Bees, they still can sting.
A description I found said this about the VBA. It’s a mutual admiration society where bloggers recognize their peers for writing quality blogs that touched them in some way. The VBAs honor the blogger rather than specific posts. It’s a chance for bloggers to pat themselves on the back like the American Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences does with the Oscars. Until someone starts giving out Blogscars, the VBAs will have to suffice.
Here are the rules when selected for the Versatile Blogger Award.
If you are nominated, you’ve been awarded the Versatile Blogger award.
- Thank the person who gave you this award. That’s common courtesy.
- Include a link to their blog. That’s also common courtesy — if you can figure out how to do it.
- Next, select 15 blogs/bloggers that you’ve recently discovered or follow regularly.
- Nominate those 15 bloggers for the Versatile Blogger Award — you might include a link to the VBA site.
- Finally, tell the person who nominated you 7 things about yourself.
Ok, I’ll start with the 7 things about me. This part does not appeal to me…dreading this, ha. I’d much rather be asked questions versus me talking about myself. Forgive me if they are lame.
1. I have lived in the same house my whole life
2. I love spicy food…I’m talking habanero or hotter spicy.
3. I haven’t driven since August 19, 2001 (Not by choice)
4. I do not like scary movies. I hate the anticipation of being scared.
5. I went skydiving for my 30th birthday.
6. Sometimes I’m scared I’m fighting a fight I can’t win.
7. I hate going a day without music
Now another difficult part, choosing 15 bloggers. I’d love to give it to all of you. If I nominate you don’t feel pressured to complete the requirements. I just wanted you to know I appreciate your blog and you supporting mine. In no specific order:
Thank you belowrance for nominating me for the Liebster Award!
When I first saw her message/nomination I didn’t really know what it is was, but I saw the word AWARD and that was enough, ha.
What is the “Liebster Award?”
It is an award given to up and coming bloggers, which reputedly started in Germany. “Liebster” is German for “favorite”, so in a way this award is the “favorite blog award” as another blogger put it. You receive this award from a fellow blogger that feels your blog is both worthy & important to them. If you receive this award, here are the steps to follow:
- Nominate anywhere from 3-11 blogs/bloggers (You can choose. 3-5 is most popular)
- The bloggers awarded must have less than 300 followers.
- Answer the 11 questions asked of you by your nominator
- Pose 11 questions for your nominees
Participation is completely voluntary and is not limited to any genre or writing for that matter. Basically, the blog can be about anything and simply has to be one that you feel is worthy and that you would like to give recognition to by passing it on.
This image kind of explains it…other bloggers with the award:
So I’m going to answer the questions belowrance asked me and then I’ll nominate my 11 bloggers and leave them 11 questions. Good thing they weren’t math questions, ha.
My questions for you:
1. How did you feel when you got your first follower? Or realized other people were reading your words?
Answer: It felt great. It’s nice to know that your likes and thoughts are worth following.
2. I am a car concert superstar (aka I belt out songs in the car with no one around), what is your song of choice when you are a car concert superstar?
Answer: I do not discriminate. Each song I hear has an equal opportunity to be blessed by what I alone think is a beautiful voice.
3. If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would it be?
Answer: There’s many places I’d like to go. So to list a few would be Italy, England, Ireland, Brazil, Japan, Australia, and Greece. In the U.S. I’d like to go to New York, San Francisco, Las Vegas, and somewhere in the mid-west dominated my mother nature.
4. If you had to rush out of your house and only take one item with you, what would it be?
Answer: I guess it would have to be my wheelchair now, ha.
5. What is your favorite baseball team?
Answer: The Atlanta Braves. Years ago they were the only team in the southeast and I’ll stay loyal
6. Have you ever had a dance party when no one else was around? (yes, I have done this… actually it happens a lot in my house)
Answer: Oh for sure. I take pride in not taking myself seriously and if I want to shake what my momma gave me, I do just that.
7. What is your favorite season?
Answer: Probably right in between spring and summer. Not too cold and not too hot….so Sprummer.
8. What is the best concert you’ve ever been to?
Answer: Hmm, well it probably wasn’t the best ever, but I emotionally needed it and live music can heal the soul. It was Jimmy Eat World at the House of Blues. Small, intimate, just right.
9. If you could be granted one wish, what would it be?
Answer: Universal Peace. This would grant us freedom from our worries, which in turn effects so many other areas of our lives.
10. If you could switch professions tomorrow, what would you do?
Answer: I think something with kids. They are usually brutally and/or beautifully honest and just seem to want to have fun first.
11. Coke or Pepsi? (If you say Pepsi, we will not be friends.)
Answer: Ha, how dare you Brooke. I still say Coke despite your warning.
I chose 11 nominees because I couldn’t limit myself to any less, ha. I barely sifted it to 11. Luckily some of my favs had over 300 members
Ok, here are my chosen 11 and their designated 11 questions:
1. When you are driving do you prefer windows or A/C?
2. What brought you to WordPress?
3. Do you bless people after they sneeze?
4. Are you a morning person?
5. What is a favorite movie of yours?
6. Where would you live if you could pick any place?
7. Do you believe in God and/or practice a certain religion?
8. What kind of grades did you make in school?
9. What is one of your favorite songs?
10. When I’m riding or driving in a car I lean more towards music than conversation. Are you more for music or conversation?
11. Do you believe in true love?
I have tried to do this very thing as of late and that is why I related to it so well when I saw it.
Initially if I see a female that catches my eye I no longer allow myself to leave and wonder what if. Nope I roll right up without any expectations and speak the truth. I say Hello and then tell her whatever it is I wanted to, which is kind and respectable of course, ha. And whatever happens, happens. But regardless of the outcome I get to leave without any regrets or a myriad of wonder ifs’.
Now this can be applied to many another scenarios outside of you speaking to a man or woman that catches your eye. We should all aim to live a life where we are presently erasing the chance for regret.
With this said I also relate to the desire to break away from the monotonous and mundane text book exchanges that this comic labeled “club passwords”. Tell me something real. Ask me something original. Let’s share something we both won’t forget.
“Everyone Carries a Piece of the Puzzle”
Don’t risk leaving out a piece of your puzzle